Why is it so hard to stop worrying?

When we are more than even preoccupied with “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, worry becomes a problem. 

Look in the mirror and love again the stranger who was your self

LOVE AFTER LOVE 
The time will come when,
with elation and joy, you will greet yourself 
in your own mirror and each will smile and welcome the other and say:

Counteroffer, stay or go?

You finally decide to start looking for a new job. You go through a lengthy search process, you’re presented with an enticing career opportunity, and get an offer you’re fully prepared to accept. But when you tell your current employer you’re planning to leave, they surprise you with a counteroffer. Should you stay or should you go? Research shows:

Is it true what we think?

Assumption is probably a word that I use in every coaching session. Byron Katie says: “As long as you think that the cause of our problem is “out there”—as long as we think that anyone or anything is responsible for our suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that we are forever in the role of victim, that we are suffering because of our thoughts, assumptions.” 

Candid in 2019

Dear Clients, Thank you for the nice and pleasant cooperation in the past year. I am inspired by you and learned a lot again: From new perspectives to beautiful dreams for the future. It makes me curious what 2019 will bring us. I wish us a candid year.

Creative boss? But how do we get things done?

Visionary bosses can be exciting, fun, and innovative. But the thought that you are the only one who gets anything done and contributes value, accurse often. Here are some helpful strategies for managing up when your boss gets distracted by too many creative ideas.

10 Signs Your Ego is in Control

We talk about Ego when clients experience issues in collaboration. The first step is awareness – you need to start to become aware of when you’re ego is playing up so you can stop it before it’s too late! 10 signs:

Feedback signals that the boss is in charge, start with listening first!

Almost every day I talk about Leadership and learning to listen. We want to talk and explain everything. Also when it comes to giving feedback. But giving feedback starts with listening.

Multicultural leadership; embrace the differences

Many of my expat clients talk about multicultural leadership. I learned that it involves deep immersion within different cultures to understand their values and specific context. Only through knowing other cultures deeply can we effectively connect the dots between them and highlight meaningful differences between cultures that impact business strategy and collaboration. Address the following 4 issues to understand each other better.

Not engaged in meetings? Apply Design Thinking

" Are you critical about the meetings that you should attend " is often my question when I hear my clients talk about their energy drains. Look at the research figures below:

5 Tips How to Be Friends with Someone Who Works for You

In the last year I met several people that had a subordinate as a close friend. Having a friend or partner who is a subordinate requires high degrees of trust, explixit communication, bounderies and judgment on both parts. It’s not possible with every work relationship. 5 Tips:

Compassion in 2018

4 tips for coworkers' feedback dialoque

1.Ask your coworkers’ to push back. “How do you feel that went, and what could I have done differently?”

When stressed, alow yourself to unfocus

The brain operates optimally when it toggles between focus and unfocus., allowing you to develop resilience, enhance creativity, and make better decisions too. Most of us are juggling the demands of many teams  and many projects at once. Getting pulled across several different projects can be stressful

Citizenship crafting; a dialoque to discuss overachieving

20 % of your time rescuing the teams problems? Manage peer accountability!

How to Handle Underperformers on a Team You Inherit

Work only a paycheque? But what makes us happy?

In this article I recognized the "what do i really value?" question . Many of us today expand the role of work beyond just earning a living and expect our careers to provide opportunities for personal growth and fulfillment. But when you ask people directly,  you don’t always get a clear picture of what they really value.

Motivating Millennials Takes More than Flexible Work Policies; 3 tips

When I read this article I realized again, as a babyboomer, that we have to communicate with our youngest working generation to fill in the possible generation gap!

7 Qualities of Design-thinking leaders

In leadership coaching I meet a lot of " New School"  leaders that are looking for new ways of leadership. They miss creativity in their jobs.