Positive performance but Position eliminated 

While it seems counterintuitive, strong performance in your role doesn’t equal job security. I’ve seen plenty of firsthand evidence of this through coaching a wide range of executives in diverse industries. Research supports this reality as well. In a Zenger and Folkman study, 77% of employees whose positions were eliminated had received positive performance reviews in the year prior to their dismissal.

Retrospective 2019

 
 It was an educational and inspiring year for me. Thanks to everyone with whom I could share this.
= The average age of my clients decreased.
= The demand for work-life balance increased.
= The demand for team leadership versus management increased.
Themes:
= Equivalence.
= Less personalizing work
= Dealing with resistances without involving yourself and dealing with authority if you are sensitive to it.
We have regularly drawn the following conclusion:

Humans over robots?

50 % of the jobs cannot be automated because of emotion and context.
First, emotion. Emotion plays an important role in human communication. It is critically involved in virtually all forms of nonverbal communication and in empathy. But more than that, it is also plays a role in helping us to prioritize what we do, for example helping us decide what needs to be attended to right now as opposed to later in the evening. Emotion is not only complex and nuanced, it also interacts with many of our decision processes and is difficult to build into an automated system.
Second, context. Humans can easily take context into account when making decisions or having interactions with others.

Feeling guilty towards your parents?

I remember two stories from young male clients about feeling guilty towards their parents (father) because of the choices they want to make in their adult life. I thought ...very interesting in this time and age.  So I asked them:
“How come you cannot talk about this subject with your parents? “
They said: “Fear for disappointing them and quilt for not being the perfect son.”
When I asked more questions, I heard that most of their thoughts and fears were not real but felt real according to their assumptions. And what they had experienced as a child.
But now we are adults...Unfear yourself.... Let’s learn to talk more as equals about our mutual expectations. And check our assumptions by being explicit in our questioning. "maybe you do not like what I want to share with you but at this time in my life I have to make this choice, I hope you understand.

Why is it so hard to stop worrying?

When we are more than even preoccupied with “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, worry becomes a problem. 

Look in the mirror and love again the stranger who was your self

LOVE AFTER LOVE 
The time will come when,
with elation and joy, you will greet yourself 
in your own mirror and each will smile and welcome the other and say:

Counteroffer, stay or go?

You finally decide to start looking for a new job. You go through a lengthy search process, you’re presented with an enticing career opportunity, and get an offer you’re fully prepared to accept. But when you tell your current employer you’re planning to leave, they surprise you with a counteroffer. Should you stay or should you go? Research shows:

Is it true what we think?

Assumption is probably a word that I use in every coaching session. Byron Katie says: “As long as you think that the cause of our problem is “out there”—as long as we think that anyone or anything is responsible for our suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that we are forever in the role of victim, that we are suffering because of our thoughts, assumptions.” 

Candid in 2019

Dear Clients, Thank you for the nice and pleasant cooperation in the past year. I am inspired by you and learned a lot again: From new perspectives to beautiful dreams for the future. It makes me curious what 2019 will bring us. I wish us a candid year.

Creative boss? But how do we get things done?

Visionary bosses can be exciting, fun, and innovative. But the thought that you are the only one who gets anything done and contributes value, accurse often. Here are some helpful strategies for managing up when your boss gets distracted by too many creative ideas.

Feedback signals that the boss is in charge, start with listening first!

Almost every day I talk about Leadership and learning to listen. We want to talk and explain everything. Also when it comes to giving feedback. But giving feedback starts with listening.

Multicultural leadership; embrace the differences

Many of my expat clients talk about multicultural leadership. I learned that it involves deep immersion within different cultures to understand their values and specific context. Only through knowing other cultures deeply can we effectively connect the dots between them and highlight meaningful differences between cultures that impact business strategy and collaboration. Address the following 4 issues to understand each other better.

Not engaged in meetings? Apply Design Thinking

" Are you critical about the meetings that you should attend " is often my question when I hear my clients talk about their energy drains. Look at the research figures below:

5 Tips How to Be Friends with Someone Who Works for You

In the last year I met several people that had a subordinate as a close friend. Having a friend or partner who is a subordinate requires high degrees of trust, explixit communication, bounderies and judgment on both parts. It’s not possible with every work relationship. 5 Tips:

Compassion in 2018

4 tips for coworkers' feedback dialoque

1.Ask your coworkers’ to push back. “How do you feel that went, and what could I have done differently?”

When stressed, alow yourself to unfocus

The brain operates optimally when it toggles between focus and unfocus., allowing you to develop resilience, enhance creativity, and make better decisions too. Most of us are juggling the demands of many teams  and many projects at once. Getting pulled across several different projects can be stressful

Citizenship crafting; a dialoque to discuss overachieving

20 % of your time rescuing the teams problems? Manage peer accountability!

How to Handle Underperformers on a Team You Inherit