I became aware of the value of changing my attitude in various situations—with clients and team members, for example. I discovered that I can get more out of conversations, and that I needed to drop the cynicism. I learned how to better prepare myself for meetings and other work situations.
Overall, I feel much better. I couldn’t have imagined a better coaching experience.

and not something that changes overnight. From the coaching, my work is more intrinsically (from my own power) driven and more collective versus solo (development point):

I realise now that there are several ways to reach my goals. I continue to take responsibility, but realise that accountability is fundamentally different from the worry of being judged (fear is a bad motivator, as its extrinsically motivated). Tineke created through her coaching for me so many insights.

In doing so, I recognise what is blocking me when it comes to fear of failure. Tineke, is a very experienced coach, with whom I felt very much at ease, to discuss openly about my situation, development areas, possible causes etc. The working style was excellent. We did not follow a solid framework or structure, but more a pragmatic approach (that evolved) that felt more appropriate. My second coaching question (clearer picture of my career in the coming 5-10 years) has not been fully answered. However, I realise that a coach can only facilitate this to a certain level in the given time. I have come much further. It is now up to me to continue with the process.

There were moments I felt like I was in a “ therapy session” instead of career coaching. This is a good thing. Tineke showed me tough love – it was through her thorough questioning that I was able to work through issues that I had no idea were related to my career (and personal) choices.

While I’m still trying to figure out where my career is headed, I feel significantly more confident in my capabilities and have a more defined direction of where I want to go and that is thanks to Tineke!

I’m more confident in my communication and recognize that it isn’t necessary to please everyone. That it’s ok to please myself!

 She confronts and triggers you to look critically at yourself and can practically explain the application of theoretical models. I received tools for self-reflection, recognition of my own strengths and weaknesses, and the impact on others. The coaching has made me less restless and more at peace with myself.

 I wanted some mentoring and coaching on my leadership. I told her: “ I have to be careful that my energy does not get too low. I like to learn how to deal better with stress management/ conflict management and workload management. I also like to learn how to be more persuasive when I have to deal with strong characters.”

Coaching brought me: Understanding myself, my behavioral  patterns and my reactions to certain situational stimuli better., e.g. being aware that narcists could be my addiction and my weakness.

• Higher sense of self-worth
• More confidence in dealing with strong characters
• Better stress management
• Improving my management and coaching of my team
• I personalize my work less
• I align goals instead of wanting to change people I conflict with
• I also aligned my wifes and my vision of the values we want to instill in our children

The coaching sessions have helped me be more centered so that whatever happens I can keep the direction I want to go without feeling the necessity of controlling or worry about everything that is happening.
I have learnt not to have fear of asking confronting questions or ask for an explanation if what I am told is unclear or sounds at first impact unpleasant.

I have learnt voicing my concerns and my feelings.

I was able to bring to the surface what is happening inside me in critical moments and how to counteract My “ old automated reactions” and learn new ways I have started expressing what I really feel and asking for explanations in the moment of need rather than let it cook inside me

She helped me understand that my creative talent was pushing desperately to come alive. She helped me understand how talented I was. And she taught me the big lesson - you do not have  to demonstrate anything to anyone anymore.

With very simple words, she made me think and every time I met her, there was an AHA! moment, where i thought, "Why did I not see this earlier? It is so simple!"

She helped me understand so many things about myself and I always wish I had met her earlier.

 I learned how to manage my expectations and frustrations at work, find ways of communicate better with people and make less assumptions, follow-up on things and manage my time better.

 That also shows when I present myself in front of a group. I would like to understand my limits better, particularly with respect of taking on too much work. I need to delegate more. ”

 Result: The coaching provided me with much greater self-awareness. This coupled with looking at different “tools” has helped me to develop greater strength when dealing with people and situations. I think it has given me the awareness to monitor my progress and to ensure I continue to work on these areas.

I believe I am much more able to get my point across and to deal with people more clearly on content.

 I wanted to learn what is it that holds me back in changing this and how I can feel more in control and know better in which direction I should be going, when it comes to my career. The coaching brought me the following result: An objective view of my system of thinking and its origins.

The coaching changed my way of working in the following way:

By recognizing habits, I am able to optimize useful traits and change/discard unproductive patterns to get the most out of myself and the people I work with.

Tineke's personal and professional approach to management champions other management didactics. In the end, people are the greatest resource and we must meet at a level that is universally human. When following this method it is nearly impossible to avoid accountability and this is where you find results.