Communication Manager F/37

- Create opportunities for this & if its not met, don't fear moving on
- Don't depend on others for approval/value (making a SMART goal around 'gaining others' respect doesn't work - no control over this)- this needs to come from within. 
- Confront your fear of confrontation (Criticism isn't punishment, it's not 'not being loved, it's a moment to learn.) Fearing others disappointment =child, time to move on to adulthood. 
- I'm in charge. 
- Fuck What everyone thinks!
- That said, have a counter-person at the office to check in with about these/help with tasks
- Push myself to have the courage: to address this, confront it, and grow. It is only about work not about me!
- Support from boss to make this happen: open & eerlijk . Trust to get this done
- Managing expectations:
- Get explicit: Debrief with colleagues and actively clarifying what is so we're not working on assumptions 
- Work should be a Fair Trade on how and what: limited time/capacity so if something is asked, something else must be put on lower priority. My priority is to have priorities with Boss Clear
- Managing own expectations: I'm not there to change the organisation. And high quality demands on myself can be debilitating if they are unrealistic: Impossible goals don't help anybody. Give yourself a break and set realistic goals for yourself.